You can’t do it all.
You live in a fast-paced world. And you’re a man who gets things done. But that doesn’t make you superman. With all the things on your plate, you barely find time to stop by and see Mom and Dad anymore, or any of your friends from back in college – let alone the time to properly manage the dating scene.
That’s cool because right now your priority is getting ahead; you can worry about settling down when you’re financially secure. After all, men who focus on career first and women second tend to win in both departments anyhow.
Fortunately, getting things done doesn’t have to synonymous with celibate. With that, here’s 6 ways to save time and still have an online sex life.
“Batch” Your First Dates
Maybe you feel a little iffy about being so economical about your dating life.
Get real. Women with options are beating back guys with a stick. Most are juggling multiple men not just on the phone and on fancy nights out on the town but in bed too. Besides, it’s not like you’ve agreed to marry these women – a date is just a chance to feel each other out.
And you can bet they’re very practical about how they screen men and who they end up sleeping or going steady with.
Time for you to get practical too. Batching means schedule a bunch of dates in succession on one day or night. Besides saving time, there are some other real advantages to this – it gives you an abundance mentality, you’ve got a real reason to cut the date short without lying if it goes badly, and women can sense that you’re not starved for options.
Just don’t be a jerk about it. If you hit it off well with one girl and want to continue the night with her, at least have the decency to call your next dates and cancel.
Pick Up On Women EVERYWHERE
A truly productive guy leaves no opportunity left unpursued – one of your biggest time-cutting dating strategies is just learning to think on your toes. Make opening conversations with women a part of your natural style, whether you’re at the grocery store, picking something up at the mall, grabbing the kid at school, at work (careful here), or getting your brakes done.
The great thing is that it’s almost like you’re “practicing” your game 24/7, and you’ll just get more comfortable interacting with the opposite sex. You get so natural that hitting on women is just second nature – you can bet this pays dividends down the road.
And you’ll have a lot less of those moments where you kick yourself in the ass later for not dropping a simple “How are you you today?” on that one in a million knockout standing in line at the DMV.
Don’t Beat Around the Bush
So your life’s too busy for complications. So you’re just looking for some fun and games in between your work marathons and mad dashes back and forth from the office. Right on – so why be coy about it?
You happen to live in the most sexually-liberated times the world has ever seen, and there are plenty of women who are happy to jump right to the punch.
Be more forward. Push the interaction faster, don’t be ashamed of your needs as a man, and when in doubt, set the cards on the table.
Women will respect you for it, whether they’re down or not. And many will be up for the experience.
This can be a particularly effective strategy online, where women are more free of judgment from their peers.
Find a Regular
You tend to think of steady relationships as time-sucks, and they can be. But the right relationships can actually save you time, as long as they’re free of drama. If you spend all your off-work hours thinking about and chasing women, a shortcut to life simplification is maintaining a regular so you can get the sex and affection out of the way and get back to the business of business.
So instead of constantly playing the swings of the markets, how about buying long-term? For the record, this can mean a sincere relationship or it can just mean the friends with benefits scenario that has become so common these days.
If you’ve got the type of job that doesn’t require intense focus around the clock, you can always use dating sites to find sex online, or even serious relationships, and pursue dating leads throughout the work-day. There are countless men who manage their sex lives in this manner now.
Of course, you won’t be able to give it the focused attention you could if you weren’t at work, but send out some messages in the morning before you leave the house and check it a few times through the day. With some scattered back-and-forth, you still might be able to capitalize on the online dating markets.
Pro tip: telling a woman you’re busy and don’t have time for a lot of online chatting sends the subconscious message that you’re a go-getter while at the same time short-cutting to an in-person meet-up.
Just be careful. Dating sites can be addicting and time-consuming, and if you’re not disciplined about it, it can quickly start affecting your work. Which kind of defeats the point of saving time in the first place.
Outsource Your Online Dating
A fast-growing segment of successful young men are starting to realize that in the modern internet-driven world, it often makes sense just to outsource your online dating. Well, at least the meet-and-greet part of, that is.
A virtual dating assistant can not only help you pull together a profile that puts your best foot forward online but will scour the internet, looking for the top women that fit your criteria while you get work done. They’ll initiate the conversation, set up dates, and then hand the reigns to you.
It’s just smart dating.
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