Meeting girls online for dates can feel like a sucker move sometimes. Yeah, times have changed and it doesn’t have the stigma it used to. But let’s face it, women like men who have options. And turning to the world wide web for dates doesn’t always feel like the strategy of a guy who’s drowning in women.
So how to meet women online while holding up the appearance that you’re a man with plenty of options?
First, Get Your Mental Frame in Check!
You need to break out of that mental funk that has you over-analyzing the virtual dating markets. There are tons of attractive, cool people online scoring dates these days. Now you’re one of them.
Your reason for being on an online dating site is whatever you want it to be.
Because YOU decide the rules of your own life – that’s what men who are in charge do.
You’re a fun guy, right? Well, this is a fun experience and a chance to meet new people.
Nothing more, nothing less.
Avoid Being a Compliment Troll
Women love collecting compliments on the internet.
You’ve seen the guys who cater to their vanity. Leaving lame comments on their profiles, telling them how beautiful and hot they are. “Will you marry me?” they say with their vague, half-serious sarcasm…
Multiply these lame comments by one hundred and you’ve got an inkling of what a woman’s inbox looks like…
A physical comment is a good idea when you first introduce yourself to make your intentions clear and stay out of the “friend zone,” but don’t get hung up on it. Tone it down a bit, and use sparingly.
If you must compliment her more than once, consider mixing it up by mentioning an aspect of her personality or interests.
You don’t want to give the impression that good looks hold some type of special power over you. Because that indicates you don’t spend time around many good-looking women.
And that’s bad for your image, ace.
Don’t Become A 24/7 Lurker
This can be a trap if you spend a lot of time online for work and get in the habit of staying logged in to your dating profiles. If a girl sees you’re there every time she checks in, she’ll probably think you don’t have a life.
The same goes if you reply to every message she sends right away, even when she delays.
Log in, send off some messages to women you’re attracted to – make a good run of it – and answer messages in your inbox. If some hot number is engaging you in a conversation, sure, capitalize on that while the interest is fresh, but don’t wait around twenty minutes for her to respond.
You’ve got better things to do than spend your entire life trying to meet girls online.
Move the Interaction Offline…Fast
Want to look like a pathetic loner?
Spend hours upon hours “getting to know her” in chats and back-and-forth messages…Tell her your life story over OKCupid…Engage her for weeks or months without ever meeting.
And you’ll be well on your way…
Look, cool guys might be meeting girls online, but I assure you they do NOT drag out virtual relationships with women they’ve never met.
Make it your main goal to get her off the web, and fast. If she refuses, tell her you’re not interested in talking a lot online. Make it clear you prefer the real world.
Here’s the Thing About Online Dating
It can be a great way fill the pipeline without spending a bunch of time in bars and throwing off your work schedule. And with a shotgun approach, you can go through a lot of profiles quickly and save a lot of wasted time screening dead ends.
But women also get a lot of attention from desperate losers online. It’s easy to just ignore you, and once they start giving you the cold shoulder, it can almost start making you question your value in the markets.
This isn’t the real world. In some ways that’s good. In some ways it’s not. The important thing is just to realize it’s different.
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