You remember the days…night after night on the town. On the prowl and chasing women. Those oh-so-juicy drunken decisions and then the brutal hangovers that followed.
It was a blast, yeah, but you’re more grown up than that now. You have a career and a reputation to preserve.
And too many nights out can quickly lead to problems like low energy for work, premature aging, and even alcoholism.
Whether you’re newly single or just trying to improve your romantic life, the nightlife seems like the obvious choice for getting active again, but…
How About a Different Approach?
Chasing women is a cat and mouse game that can take place anywhere – not just at the watering holes.
And when seeking quality, emotionally-stable girls worth dating and sleeping with, the clubs are the last places you should look.
But how to get more dates without them? Fortunately, with some new strategies and a willingness to put in more work for more worthwhile results, you can meet plenty of hot women without ever stepping foot in the bar.
First things first…
Maximize Your Potential to Clear the Higher Barrier to Entry
Here’s the thing.
The “cool” party animal guy who lives and breathes the club scene gets away with being a bit rough around the edges. Drunk women give more leeway, and these guys have social proof in their domain.
Unfortunately, I all too often see guys with every detail in their professional life pinned down that have sloppy style and are letting their bodies go. Big mistake.
As a man who’d rather avoid the meat markets, you lose the edge that alcohol provides, so you must be on top of your game at all times so you don’t miss those random opportunities.
Meeting Women in the Daytime – First, Become a More Outgoing Guy
If you spent your younger years meeting women in nightclubs, like most men, deliberately approaching random women in the day-time takes more courage, even for men who consider themselves confident.
Where to start?
Focus on being more outgoing with everybody at first.
Have you ever been standing in line or sitting in a restaurant when some stranger turned to you and made a random comment? It threw you off, but it kind of broke you out of your shell, and by the time you finished talking with them, you felt somehow more at ease, right?
They’re not doing that “on accident.” They’re sparking a conversation, and they probably do it everywhere they go.
Be that guy. Start random conversations everywhere. Work. The grocery store. The DMV. The gym.
You’ll be amazed at the doors that suddenly open – your day to-day-life will be more interesting, you’ll make more friends, you’ll stumble across business opportunities, and…if you leverage it properly…you’ll get more dates.
Ramp it Up: Deliberately Approach Attractive Women
As time goes by, be more forward. Gather your courage and initiate conversations with beautiful women – tell them you found them attractive, and ask them for a phone number or a date on the spot.
Women still do appreciate this kind of thing from a handsome, successful guy.
As a plus, if a woman looks half-decent out there in the sunshine, without a drop of booze, she’s probably a knockout done up for a night on the town.
And since most guys don’t have the guts for approaching random women without the alcohol crutch, there’s more of a chance you’ll surprise her and make a connection.
A More Interesting Life = More Interesting Women
Just hitting on women you see around town is great, but the nightlife is hard to beat in terms of sheer numbers, so what you need is more exposure to make up for it.
The trick is to fill your time with extracurricular activities that put you in more contact with the opposite sex. Hopefully, you’re doing this already, but some of you get so caught up in your careers you forget to strike a balance.
Dance classes, yoga, the gym, community clubs, Meetup.com events, college courses, and local festivals are all great ideas to start.
Besides putting you in contact with more women, a life with this kind of variety makes you more interesting (read “more attractive”).
Venturing Into the Online Dating World
For a lot of busy, professional, introverted, or health-conscious guys, the popularity of online dating has become a godsend for meeting women from the comfort of their homes.
There’s no better way to access so many dating leads without having to raise your voice over pumped-up speakers and the roar of a drunken crowd.
If you’re new to the game, it does take some getting used to, but once you learn the ropes and develop a winning strategy, you really don’t have to go out at all – it can quickly become your main source of date leads.
Send some messages. Hit it off. Meet for coffee or a glass of wine somewhere, and then, well, the rest is up to you…
Hire Professional Dating Services
There are all kinds of dating coaches out there who can help you with your style, teach you a thing or two about female psychology, or even offer strategies for striking a spark with the opposite sex.
Or, how about directly outsourcing your online dating?
A professional dating assistant can save you a ton of time by fielding the online “markets” for you. They send out messages, screen women, and set up dates.
That way you can focus on the things that matter most and just show up when it’s go-time.
This is truly the #1 lifestyle hack when it comes to building an active sex life without investing all your time or burning up your precious energy in bars full of blabbering drunks.
It’s All About Finding the Balance
If you want to be a desirable man well into old age, heading out on the town from time to time for some fun is okay. But we all know that depending on it too much can become a path to destruction.
So, be different.
Mix things up a bit. Approach your dating life from a more mature perspective. Lock down higher-quality women, and preserve your health in the process.
Want to learn more about how online dating and personal dating services can help you fill the dating pipeline without staying up late? Get in touch with a personal dating assistant.
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